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Friday, May 4, 2012

Everything is personal, if you're a person.

I hate to return after being absent for so long with a preachy blog. But, I have been thinking about this lately and if I don’t write about it, I’ll continue to think about it.

Years ago, I heard the most profound phrase, and it has stuck with me all of these years.

“Everything is personal, if you’re a person.” 

For those movie lovers out there, you can probably cite which movie and what actress that originated from. Regardless of its origin, it’s something to think about, and something to remember.

I used to be part of a certain internet forum. I decided to take my exit a month or so ago. I still creep in and out when I think about it…just to check in on the few people there that I do actually care about. Something has happened recently with the majority of the frequent posters. There has been an obvious separation there; with some migrating to form another forum, and some bouncing in between the two.

Regardless of the reasons or the deciding factors, there has been an increase in child-like attitudes recently and I find it incredibly distasteful. When we get our feathers ruffled, it’s so eye opening to go back and actually think about what we said and how we acted during that time. Sometimes, it’s downright embarrassing. Hind sight really is 20/20.

If I had the chance to say one thing to them all, it would be this: I constantly hear it preached that, “the internet is serious business!” It’s a constant, running joke among the technical community. I’m sure if you’ve been involved with the internet for any length of time, you’ve read it before. It’s a phrase that has caught on just like any other fad and it’s slathered in sarcasm when it should be respected, and seen as an individual label.

I know exactly what most people think about when they say it. And, it’s true. The majority of the public take things too seriously. People are too uptight about some things. Absolutely.

But, whether you believe it or not; it doesn’t matter what you’re dealing with, everything has an impact on you one way or the other. You can’t tell me it doesn’t. People have lost their lives, their families, their jobs, their friends… all from the internet. Do you deny it? So, why is it that when someone seems to be getting their feathers ruffled, we feel the need to brush it off and treat them as if they are just being silly about a simple joke or opinion? Does their life mean so little to you? When we log in to the internet, it doesn’t matter where we go, or what we do. …we are actively taking time away from our everyday life. Your family is put on hold, your chores are put on hold, your entire existence is transformed into a life that exists in a series of numbers and algorithms. To some, this life is more precious than their actual living, breathing existence. How absurd.

Some people really do need to grow up. Some people need to read the definition of respect and sit on it for a little while. When someone has invested years of their life into a character, it is not your place to blast their true identity to the world. That is a personal choice, and you have crossed a line of respect and simple human dignity.

I know that half of the people reading this blog will be confused as heck, and I’m sorry for that. I just really needed to get this out so I could move onto something else in my head to think about.

People never cease to amaze me. I am constantly surprised at how some people can act sometimes. But, I do know this… never pick a fight with an idiot. They’ll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience every time.

 Respect is something that has long been lost, and is on the edge of extinction. If you can’t respect those around you, how do you expect your children to? If you can’t respect someone, because of some random reason…remove yourself from interacting with them. If you can’t remove yourself, then you’re going to have to deal with it the best way you know how. Just remember that you’re an adult. People will remember the negative things before they remember the positive…and remember that everything is personal, if you’re a person.


  1. Respect both for oneself and for others does seem to have gone by the wayside. It's a shame that it has. I agree that the internet has been a contributing factor to that too.

  2. I have given up on that forum ever meaning anything to me again. I don't know if I am part of the problem or part of the solution anymore. Therefore, it is just best I stay away until I have need of it in some way. I now understand that some people only live to try to mess with other peoples lives and some only live to try tomake others as miserable as possible. I appreciate certain people inviting me to other forums, groups and secret places on the net. I know I can add value to anything I choose to participate in, and it is nice that others see that in me as well. I am done trying to communicate, understand or even get along with people that have no respect for themselves or me. There is not enough time in life to be miserable. I have said it before that I want to hold people up around me, never put them down.

  3. As a 20-year internet veteran; what you typed is so true. People hide behind a monitor and keyboard as if they are locked up behind a three-foot-thick cinderblock wall; and there-they feel free to hurl insults at others across the lines. Idiots? Indeed! Respect, in some places, IS long gone. Maybe those of us who 'get' that concept can bring a little back?!?